Feeling guilty

I've been noticing things that I do with elianna that I didn't do with Malachi. Such as nursing her to sleep or rocking her to sleep. I used to be a big fan of sleep training. But now I'm not so sure. Lately I've been feeling guilty that I used to let Malachi cry himself to sleep. And I've been rocking him to sleep the last few days/nights for naps and bedtime. I feel like I missed out on a lot of the baby stuff he did because I was so worried about getting him to sleep through the night. Or getting him to do other things. Now I realize how fast it goes and how I want to cherish every little moment we have together since he will be 2 in October. Before I know it he will be 10, then 18, then gone and married or doing whatever God has in store for him. And with Elianna I have been doing everything I can to comfort her when she's upset and I nurse her to sleep and I rock her. I used to think it would create bad sleep habits, but I can't imagine letting her cry.
Have any of you other moms gone through this with a second or third child?

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Bethany ReillyBedford, Virginia
    06/01/15
    I can relate, I cuddle and hold my second one more than I did with my oldest. My husband says that this is the reason that she cries when I leave the room or put her down to get things down around the house. But the way I look at it, we have decided to not have anymore children, so this is my last opportunity enjoy these types of moments. My oldest is seven and she is acting out because I do spend more time trying to settle and comfort the little one. So, I am trying to do more things separately with her so that she doesn't feel neglected. It is definitely a tough balance.
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    06/01/15
    Bethany Reilly
    Yea, I know what you mean. It's so rough not knowing because with your first everything is new! And now I'm just trying to enjoy the moments with him being a little boy. Definitely snuggle that babe! Especially if she's your last. Thanks for being honest with me.
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      06/01/15
      5Tabitha
      You can't do the same exact thing with every kid. You learn. You know that just because it's what you did with your oldest, doesn't mean it's what you want to do with the baby now. Unfortunately it seems the oldest kids are kind of the test kids, if you get what I mean.
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      06/01/15
      Bethany Reilly
      Good words, Tabitha! I think your definitely right. The first baby is like the test child, lol! Not in a mean way but it's true. But yea. I'm definitely doing things different this time around.
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      06/02/15
      5Tabitha
      LOL I'm glad you understood what I meant. :D I know there's certain things I do the same, but overall-it's been different with each kid.
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      06/02/15
      Bethany Reilly
      Of course! And yea, well one major difference is I only breastfed Malachi for a week.
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      06/03/15
      5Tabitha
      Yeah. My oldest lasted two weeks, my second I had major issues but was bound and determined.. After him the two youngers were a breeze with breastfeeding lol. Now we just gotta figure out this sleep routine.
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      06/04/15
      Bethany Reilly
      Same with Malachi... 2 weeks! This time we are almost to 4 months and it's going great! But yes! She's got herself on this crazy schedule where she is so tired by 8:00 but then she'll wake up at 8:30 and be up until 10:30. And don't get me started on Malachi's! He has been all messed up lately.
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      06/05/15
      5Tabitha
      oh my! When my middle was born my husband switched shifts. He went from working 2pm-10pm to 6am-2pm... The only way I could get the kids to bed was take them to bed with us. I love cuddling with them...but we want our bed back lol. Trying to get them to sleep in their own beds. The baby doesn't do too bad.
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      06/06/15
      Bethany Reilly
      Yea! It's tough. They both sleep in their own bed but Malachi just plays some nights for awhile lol. So I have to go in and get him up cuz I don't wanna leave him up there. It's frustrating sometimes. But hopefully they'll get in their own beds soon. Lol
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      About Bethany Reilly
      Current: Bedford, Virginia
      Birth: April 20
      On Moms.com since: May 3, 2014
      I am 23, raising Malachi who's 2&1/2, Elianna who is 1, & our newest addition Isaiah! Born April 15, 2016❤️