My Ectopic Experience

Before I begin, I will say that I've been trying to learn a lot more about ectopic pregnancies after I had surgery. I came across an awesome website: http://www.ectopic.org.uk which helped me learn a lot of what had happened.
I apologize if this is a little long.

It took over 12 hours before I realized my cramping was not normal, I began thinking of anything that would cause stomach and pain on my right side. So I made an appointment with family doctor thinking worse case scenario it was my appendix or ectopic pregnancy.
I had a tubal ligation over a month after my youngest was born (Spring, 2014). My periods went crazy along with my hormones after January of this year so when my period was over a week late I didn't think much of it. For the first month my breasts were not tender and I had no pregnancy symptoms other than my emotions being completely out of whack.
The first thing I did at the dr. office was have a pregnancy test to be sure. (Note: My daughter had been saying she really wanted a baby sister for Christmas.) The shock of our family doctor saying that I was pregnant was breathtaking. Lets just say we laughed at first.
Then things got serious, I had to have an ultrasound ASAP done to see where the pregnancy was located. Roughly four hours later looking at the ultrasound, there was no fetus (I say fetus because there was no heartbeat) - only an empty pregnancy sac (bigger than my hand) in my tube. (Ampullary ectopic) with a lot of fluid in my abdominal cavity - nothing in the uterus. My extreme bloating that I had thought just to be my ulcerative colitis was more extreme than a tight pair of pants. The OBGYN that did the first ultrasound had requested that we did more blood work and an ultrasound later on in the evening and do the surgery the following morning if I had no internal bleeding. Time is a little more serious than possible options in our case. During the transitions from doctor buildings: One of our sister in laws from out of town called as soon as she had heard and offered to take care of our three little ones for a couple of days. God is so good!
Two hours later I arrived at a nearby hospital. (There was a little bit of a mix up with doing just a little blood work.) I had a second ultrasound. This time the pregnancy sac was no longer in the tube. I was roughly 6 weeks along. It had pushed out into my abdominal cavity along with internal bleeding from a natural abortion. The extreme cramping I was having was my body realizing that something was in the tube that did not belong and started to have a meltdown. My blood pressure was 120/80 and heart rate was 100. So we had to wait on the blood work along with radiologist to confirm that it was an ectopic pregnancy. This took an additional hour.
I could almost be an actress from the lack of not showing pain. The reason I say this is because by the time they had me prepped for laparoscopy surgery my pain had reached the point that I was wanting to go to sleep. I didn't want to move. This was shock. There was no thoughts of "Am I going to wake up and see my husband?" until he gave me a quick kiss in the hallway, but I was so numb, I couldn't cry if I had wanted to. It was roughly three hours before I came out of surgery/recovery room and was throwing up trying to roll onto another bed. Gross, I know...
I could hear several voices and couldn't see anything. I finally got a glimpse of my husband and he immediately told me to calm down, I had to stay calm. I still had a limp, numb body. I tried to sit up, but my pain that I had at the beginning of the day was back. I heard one nurse say, "We were told she had no pain at all!" Then another nurse told me as soon as I could keep down some ice and some clear liquids, I would be able to go home. I was so out of it, it took 2 hours for my husband to wake me up. If he wasn't there, I'm pretty sure I would have been wearing sprite.
A few hours later, I woke up ready to walk off the gas build up that was left over from the surgery. My husband on the other hand was still recovering from emotional roller coaster. We had a few calls in the morning asking how everything went and if I was doing okay. I personally wanted to run a 5K if it meant getting the shoulder pain to go away. I don't "REST" well. It's just not in my nature.

I quickly learned that I could not sit up. It took at least three days before I started looking up how to do things if I was recovering from a c-section. I also have learned that it takes up the 3 weeks to fully recover. For the first week or more - don't lift more than 10 pounds. You may not be able to sit up proper for two weeks. For me: over a week.
WHAT IS IT:
"Ectopic pregnancy is a common, life-threatening condition that affects 1 in 80 pregnancies. Put very simply, it means “an out-of-place pregnancy”. It occurs when a woman’s ovum (egg), that has been fertilised, implants (gets stuck somewhere) instead of moving successfully down her fallopian tube into the womb to develop there. The most common place for an ectopic pregnancy is the fallopian tube but there are many other sites where an ectopic pregnancy can be located. It is, sadly, not possible to move an ectopic pregnancy. (The EPT, 2015)"
SYMPTOMS:
"GPs and hospital doctors may have difficulty reaching a diagnosis because symptoms may occur from almost immediately you are pregnant (4 weeks) up to 12 weeks or even later. The symptoms are also similar to other ailments such as gastroenteritis and miscarriage, the most common ways to misdiagnose an ectopic pregnancy. Please do be vigilant and take pain that concerns you seriously until absolutely proven otherwise. If your instincts are screaming at you that something doesn’t feel right, it’s OK to trust them and ask for a reassessment at any time.(The EPT, 2015)" **abdominal pain**, **shoulder tip pain**, **bladder/bowl problems**, **collapse**, **pregnancy test**, **abnormal bleeding**, **missed period**

As for emotional: I did not know I was pregnant and there is a part of me, I don't feel like I lost a child. Maybe if I was further along and had known that I was pregnant... I am happy that I am safe and alive to continue to watch my children smile and grow.

The chances of having ANOTHER ectopic pregnancy however has increased a lot more now since 1. I have my tubes tied and 2. I've had an ectopic pregnancy. We are now looking into me being on birth control pills and my husband getting clipped.

"I'm not going to think of that now, I'll think about it tomorrow" Oh, Gone with the WInd. <3

God Bless, Y'all! Remember to thank God for his mercy and enjoy the small things in life. Thank you!

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Danielle KeltnerColumbia, Kentucky
    06/13/15
    Melissa Middleton
    Thank you for sharing. I'm sorry you had to endure that, but I am glad you are doing well and are here to care for your kiddos. :)
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      06/14/15
      Danielle Keltner
      <3 I felt the need to share it, I hope it reaches someone that needs the information. Everything happens for a reason. God is good, always!
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