Mother-In-laws :(

So, my daughters dance recital is this Friday and I have had numerous conversations with my mother-in-law about the recital coming up. We have bought tickets the past two years for them and they didn't go either year because she didn't feel well, she has lupus and everyday is kind of hit or miss for how she is going to feel. So, this year since they are selling tickets at the door, my husband and I decided not to buy tickets and that if they actually go to the recital, we would pay for their tickets at the door. I guess since we didn't buy them tickets yet and send out a formal invite?? she is mad because she called last night to ask about whether we wanted them at the recital which is silly because why wouldn't we and since I didn't answer the phone is a very pleasant tone because our little one has been running a fever of about 103 to 104 for the past two days and we have gotten much sleep she hung up the phone on me. My response was "it is up to you guys, if you want to the come to the recital, then come along" which I didn't really think was being mean??
sorry for rambling, but I am at a loss?

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06/17/15
I can say many things about mine, but I will just stick with one that just upsets me the most. I am going to call her out on it if she does it one more time. I am a very easy going and laid back , but today really upset me when she comes over and gives me a dress and says oh this is the dress for Isabella to wear on Father's Day, hello! She doesnt even bother asking me if I had something picked out for my daughter and then she says we are having a bbq for fathers day. I said oh, that sounds nice but we already have plans, I told her that I was taking my husband and daughter out to lunch and she says no cancel it and just come over. I was about to lose it with her. This father's day is special to us because its my huabands first fathers day and we would like to spend it together and we had plans already. She just does things without consulting me (the mother) first, but if I say something to her of course she is going to be offended no matter how I say it to her. Its crazy because this goes for any special holiday as well she feels as though she is entitled to do something before me. It's really quite ridiculous!i'm the mother respect me, damn it! Sorry for ranting!
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06/17/15
Melissa Middleton
I have a sister-in-law like that! My hubby is adopted so this woman is old enough to be my mother and always complains, tries to tell us how to parent because we are always "doing it wrong," and she tends to buy my kids' clothes and costumes for each occasion, which irks me because I want to do that and feel she is taking that away from me. She has two grown kids, and she has had her chance.
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08/13/15
Melissa Middleton
Don't you hate that? My hubby's bio mother only calls when she needs something. And she only messages me chain mail junk, which is very annoying. I feel she is always looking for a pity party. She never asks how the kids are doing, either.

So, no, it does not sound mean. Some people are actually attention seekers and it gets rather pathetic.
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    06/17/15
    Melissa Middleton
    Just explain to her that you didn't mean to sound that way if you did to her (I hope I made since). Tell her what has been happening the past two days and, hopefully, she will understand. It should be up to them whether they want to attend or not, since we cannot read minds.
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    08/13/15
    Melissa Middleton
    Yikes! I feel for you.
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    I am a mom that works full time from home. I have two beautiful little girls and enjoy every minute that I spend with them.