This ? might be TMI for some people but I still want to ask

My husband and I don't get a lot of personal time together because he works a lot. And when I do want to be close to him in a making love kind of way he gets kind of mad at me. Because my sex drive is a lot stronger than his. And then he tells me he doesn't want to be close like that because its all I care about.And I don't agree with him. I think he should want to be close with me like that. But he makes me feel bad about wanting to be close to him.And I cant just turn my feelings for him off.So how would you fix something like that? Because it just makes me really really sad.

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    06/29/15
    Bethany Reilly
    Maybe try to have a nice talk with him? And let him know that sex isn't all you care about but part of one of the beautiful mysteries and gifts of marriage is being able to join together as one in that way with the man that you love. And it's even more important to make time to do that when you have children. Just because you're a parent doesn't mean you aren't still sexual. And let him know that he's the only one who can meet your sexual needs. Obviously you don't want to go anywhere else to get them met. That sounds so tough:( I have a higher sex drive then my husband as well. Sometimes it's quite frustrating when he tells me no.
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    06/29/15
    I have tried talking to him in a nice way. But he tells me I need to practice some self control. And I told him we are married I don't think I need self control when im alone with my own husband.His sex needs are met no mater what.We have been together for 6 years and I have never told him no when it comes to sex.I work at trying to make it work and he doesn't think he needs to do that.He always tells me being married is great for him and im glad it is. I just don't feel like being the house wife and mommy all the time.I love being a mommy but I also want to like being a wife.Thanks for the advice :)
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    07/02/15
    Bethany Reilly
    Aw, well I will pray for you and your husband. I've noticed what helps me and my hubby is being super open about it and I also pray about it. It sounds weird but sex is a gift from God. He wants us to enjoy it. And Satan wants to try to ruin that sacred bond. You're right, you should be able to enjoy being a wife as well as being a mommy. I know it's tough but just keep doing what you're doing and being patient. It will get better!
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    07/05/15
    Bethany Reilly
    Aw me too. That's awesome. I'm glad we can talk about rht
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      07/05/15
      Bethany Reilly
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        09/18/15
        Melissa Middleton
        I am in the same boat, so I haven't any helpful advice. I am Christian as well. I have had to shut myself off, emotionally, from him. And, it is not about the sex for me. I tell him that I would love to be hugged on, kissed on, and cuddled with but he thinks that all has to do with intercourse, which it doesn't. I hope things improve for you.

        Also, do not do what I did, shutting myself down...it is not healthy.
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        I am a christian stay at home mom. My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years now. And on 11/07/2013 we had are first baby.