Need to vent

Ok. So my mom has an older son who is 45 and he lives in CA With his kids and wife. We only see him maybe every 2 years. Tonight he sat me down and told me that he doesn't like my husband and that he's not helpful and from what he's seen he's worried for me.. He's only met him twice and hasn't spent any time with him
The day he came to our house back in May he said he was bothered by the fact that I made my husband a sand which instead of him making it himself. When my husband was here this past weekend at my parents lake house he drank a few more beers then he normally does and watched a little more TV.
I told him that my hubby is helpful at home. He just insisted that he doesn't like what he sees. I don't even know how to respond.

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Bethany ReillyBedford, Virginia
    08/06/15
    I wouldn't worry about it, I see nothing wrong with what you are doing by doing things for your husband. There are so many good guys(husbands) out there that work their butts off to ensure that their families are being well taken care of. I think that they do deserve a little pampering and relaxation. I personally, make sure that my husband has breakfast ready and a lunch packed every morning before he leaves for work and try my best to straighten up the house before he gets home, even though he doesn't care if toys are all over the place all the time............and they are :) My husband helps out around the house on the weekends.
    As long as you are happy and content with your life, he should be happy for you.
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    08/06/15
    Bethany Reilly
    Yea, he gets up for work at 5:30 every day. He does a physical labor job. My brother is a computer engineer so he sits in an office all day. Matthew doesn't. So by the time he gets home he's tired. On weekends he helps me a lot. He gets up with our six month old and the older one so I can sleep in a little. But I was just so blown away that he'd even have the nerve to say that "from the little time he's spent with my husband he doesn't like what he sees." I was beyond annoyed and angry and I stood up for my husband and said that he does a lot for me. Just the couple times he's seen him which the first time was for like 2 hrs and the second time was for a couple of nights and he barely spent any time with him. But it's whatever. I know what my husband does for me. So I don't need someone else telling me they don't like it especially when they've never spent more than 24 hours around our family.
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      08/06/15
      He would HATE my husband then! Lol if I didn't make my husbands meals he would probably starve. Somewhere we have picked up this idea that traditional roles are wrong...byr if that is how you decide to run your family then there is nothing wrong with that. That's how it is around here too. My husband doesn't even know where to find a bath towel in the house because there is always one hanging in the bathroom for him. Lol people who like drama are always going to look for it and if they can't find it then they will create it even over a sandwich. Or he may just be jealous that he has to make his owns sandwiches. Lol
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      08/06/15
      Bethany Reilly
      Lol, I feel better! He's got this attitude that because he's so rich and got everything going for him that's how it should be for us too. But my husband and I don't want money to define our family. Yes, my husband works to make money and provide for us. But that's not all he does. And just because I make his food or do things for him doesn't make me miserable. I enjoy doing things for him. He's never spent any time with my husband! And even when he was here with them over the weekend he made no effort to spend time with him. I was just so surprised that he'd have the nerve to say the stuff he did. He's always been kind of a jerk. So it's not really anything new. My younger brother and I have never really gotten along with him. But I just needed somewhere to vent because I was mad!
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        08/07/15
        Ever Lopez
        oh my he would kill mine if that's the case! lol.. i wouldn't worry about what anyone have to say because ppl will talk regardless, that's your hubby and that's how your relationship with him operates, i have family members complaint to me why am i a sahm and every paycheck he gives me an amount just for me to spend plus a credit card that i use for whatever i want.. so go figure if they see me serving him and picking up after him the world would come to an end!!
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