Some Things Should Not Be Said
I am on my second pregnancy (though this is my third child), and I am hearing negative feedback from in-laws, which is slowing irking me. Add to the hormones, I am becoming more annoyed by it than usual. However, some things should not be stated.
So far, I have heard: "Well, you had better stop there with that one. You both don't need anymore kids. "
This statement had nothing to do with our parenting style, it had to do with the fact that my oldest has Down Syndrome. FYI to people who think this way, each of our children are given the same amount of love, affection, and attention. Also, if we had another special needs child, it would be another gift from the Lord just like my other two.
The other one I am constantly receiving, aiming at me particularly, is: "'I' cannot imagine bringing another child into this world." OR "If it were ME, I would not be bringing another child into this world."
This person fails to realize, that comments like those should not be said to an expecting mother. With some people believing in abortion, saying that to someone considering it, would aide them in making that decision. I am against abortion, so no worries about me wanting to get rid of my child.
It is just the fact that these comments are being made and need to stop. Think before you say something to an expecting mother.
And completely uncalled for on people asking if you're having twins. They need to keep those comments to themselves, too. That is something that should not be said, too.
My husband was adopted. Jaina is my step-daughter, but she lives with us and I take care of her full time. She sees her mom three weekends a month though.
But, I call her mine because she is, and I love her as my own. And that when we adopt, that child will be ours and loved as our own. WhenI tell people that and they tend to not say anymore.
My mom and my sisters are also happy as well. This will be my mom's 17th. She just loves having lots of grandkids like her parents did.
It is very hard to ignore the negative comments of others. Honestly, it is none of their business how many kids we want. Have as many as you want, Annie!
We plan to adopt as well and we get negative comments from that, too. We get a lot of, "You won't love them like your biological kids." This is totally false because Jaina is my step-daughter. She lives with us, and I take care of her. And let me tell you, I love that girl as much as I do my son. And, I have some nieces and nephews I helped raise for a few years that I love as my own, too. No one can tell you how to feel or how many kids you want in your family. It doesn't affect them anyway, so why the worries? I hope you have as many kids as you want. :)