True Friends show themselves...
The saying goes, that you know who your true friends are when they stand beside you in tough times.
I disagree. I mean, yes... there's that, but I've recently come to realize that true and real friends stand beside you when things are going WELL.
My career is going well, it's on an upswing with a possibility looming that could be something really great. I've found that a couple of my friends not only don't ask about it or me for that matter, but if it's brought up they seem to make snide comments or take such a lack of interest that it's almost hurtful.
I've worked hard. I've clawed my way out of a very dark place post divorce with two small kids and have raised them pretty much on my own and have fought hard to find small success in what I do and have worked hard to be able to support my kids on my own. But all I get are passive aggressive comments about how I guess I don't have time for her anymore.
She's the most self centered person I know and though she had no problem showing that she was there for me when shit was hitting the fan, I realize now in hindsight that it more or less made HER feel better thinking she was doing me some big favor.
A true friend will stand beside you when things DON'T suck.. and praise you and lift you and continue to support you. NOT bring you down.
A true friend will enjoy your success as much for you as for herself. A true friend will enjoy watching someone they care about rise above all the crap and do well.
I'm over it. As much as I say I can dismiss it, it bothers me. Negativity bothers me. But I remember that I can't control how someone else behaves, I can only control how I react to it.
it's hard, but I will continue and remain kind and warm and nice and thoughtful. She will end up all alone.