Hey moms. I know it's late but if anyone is up I need some help.
I can't calm down.
Matthew and I have been living with my parents trying to find a place and get jobs. I have a job. He hasn't gotten one yet and there's a few things holding him up.
My dad came back here tonight and said that if he doesn't get those things taken care of then he's not allowed back in the house until he does. He's up where we used to live trying to get things straightened out.
He then went on to tell me that I don't watch my children because my 2 year old got into some things (magazines on the coffee table and he took a stuffed bear out of their room.) I put a lock on the cabinet in the kitchen because he was going in there spraying Febreze and stuff. He then comes back and throws in my face that I don't watch my kids because they're into "everything". But isn't that normal for a toddler to get into stuff? He said "this is all my fault"
All of the stuff that's going on. But the things my husband is trying to get moved along is beyond our control.
I can't stop crying. A few weeks ago they told me that our marriage and our children are mistakes. I don't even ever want to tell them that I'm pregnant.
I'm so close to just leaving. I'd honestly rather live in a homeless shelter then be here with them.
I'm just so emotional right now.
We have applied for housing before but you basically have to have no income what so ever to qualify. And we both do. Well he will as soon as he finds a job.
Hopefully he gets a job soon. It is hard to have that many people under one roof. When we stayed with my parents I used blankets and furniture to section off the room we were in, we were all three in one room, and we had our sons area, our area and a little living room area all in a fairly tiny room. We mostly kept to ourselves as much as possible and that helped a lot.
Parents can be so mean sometimes. I just never want to treat my children that way. It's my life. Not theirs and we are doing our best to get out of here.
My dad told me that were sitting on our butts doing nothing. But I have a job and Matthew is seriously looking for one. We aren't just sitting around living off of them.
I just cuddled him. Now I'm trying to lay down and hopefully go to sleep.
Yea, I think keeping to ourselves is the best option. Thankfully we just sleep in the basement.
Aside from that, I am so sorry they are not being understanding. And, your marriage and children ARE NOT mistakes. How dare they say such a heinous comment. In this economy, it is difficult to find a job. Your husband is looking, which does not make him lazy or a failure--he is trying.
Try your best to ignore them, hold your head up, and remember they are not right in what they say. They are going to miss out on so much of your life and your children's; it is going to be their loss. Big hugs to you, and I honestly hope things get better for your family. I will be praying for you all.
According to my parents my brother and I never did that stuff. But that's what toddlers do!! And I'm not being a lazy parent by putting a lock on the cabinet but according to them I am because Malachi who just literally turned two should know better. But no! He doesn't. And I will lock up the cleaners and Febreze before he decides to eat it.
Thank you! I truly appreciate the encouraging words. I don't believe any of this is a mistake. And Matthew finally has a job interview on next Wednesday. Praise God for that.
They are helping us out and we are truly appreciative of that. But they feel since they're helping us they can say whatever they want to us about our family and reproductive choices. But those are our choices! And I believe God doesn't make mistakes. Our babies a blessings, not mistakes. I love my husband and my children with my whole being and I couldn't be more happy with them and the life God has blessed me with growing inside of me.
Things have gotten a bit better. My mom knew we needed some girl clothes for Elianna so she went and got her some and gave them to her for an early Christmas present which really blessed us.
My dad just doesn't get it.
I am glad your mother has come around and that Matthew has a job interview Wed.
You're very welcome, Bethany. My kids get into mischief, too. Kids are curious, especially toddlers. They feel the need to explore and spill things everywhere, too. I hope your dad comes around.
Thank you momma! I'm very happy as well. It's been nice that she got her some stuff we really needed cuz we can't afford to spend the money now! Since Matthew has no job. But I'm so glad he's got this interview. I'm praying he will get it.
Yes, everyone I've talked to including his peditrician says its NORMAL! They just need to get over it.
Thank you. I hope he does too.