Too controlling or just being a mom?

Tell me im not the only one who does this PLEASE!!!! I just started a new job and its overnight so we been trying to get he baby adjusted to not being so upset as i leave and being able to sleep without me there to breastfeed. Although, she is starting regular milk but its just weening her off the boob is a little difficult she is not having it lol. Well my husband and i have been arguing cause as what he tells me that now that i have my job i act like im doing things on my own. For example: We had a conversation about as soon as i get paid i wanna buy my kids this and that like clothes, toys , boots etc... then next pay check put some towards bills then put more towards holiday stuff. He tells me relax dont go crazy just buy things here and there we be fine. I hate to wait to get my kids the things they need i feel like im seeing them do without and i feel like a bad mom. Before i moved to the town im in now i lived in philadelphia and was getting paid 11.20 and hour and i was able to buy what my son needed. If he grew out of his pants boom i got him some new jeans next day i never depended on anyone to buy my son anything not even his dad. Now we have another child i still feel solely responsible to make sure everything is done and they have anything they need. Am i crazy?

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    11/23/15
    You're husband probably feels like you are undermining him. He wants to be able to take care of his kids and his wife. Make a list of things your kids need. Then pool your paychecks and pay for everything together.
    Men are wired to be the caregiver and for many men, when their wife gets a job and can be independent, they see it as a threat and get even more defensive.
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    11/24/15
    Yes it is very hard. And while I agree that some married couples do great with the wife doing one thing and the husband the other, there are still many men who just want to be relied on. My husband much prefers me to buy the stuff needed for the kids-but he wants to be on the when and how much it will cost part.
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    11/24/15
    Melissa Middleton
    That's how my husband is.
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      11/24/15
      Melissa Middleton
      I do not think you are crazy. Most men like to be the bread winners. For most, it is a natural instinct and they feel threatened or as though they cannot provide for their families because the wife has to take a job as well (as Tabitha pointed out). My husband is this way. Could you try compromising and buying a little here and a little there? They will still be able to get the things they need, just not all at once.
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        12/02/15
        You are not crazy, you are just being a mom. While I try not to spend frivolously, if the kids need something I will buy it for them, but if something that they do not need right away, only then will I talk to my husband about getting it. With a second child in the house now as well, I feel like I am always going to the store to buy something for the kids.
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