Too controlling or just being a mom?
Tell me im not the only one who does this PLEASE!!!! I just started a new job and its overnight so we been trying to get he baby adjusted to not being so upset as i leave and being able to sleep without me there to breastfeed. Although, she is starting regular milk but its just weening her off the boob is a little difficult she is not having it lol. Well my husband and i have been arguing cause as what he tells me that now that i have my job i act like im doing things on my own. For example: We had a conversation about as soon as i get paid i wanna buy my kids this and that like clothes, toys , boots etc... then next pay check put some towards bills then put more towards holiday stuff. He tells me relax dont go crazy just buy things here and there we be fine. I hate to wait to get my kids the things they need i feel like im seeing them do without and i feel like a bad mom. Before i moved to the town im in now i lived in philadelphia and was getting paid 11.20 and hour and i was able to buy what my son needed. If he grew out of his pants boom i got him some new jeans next day i never depended on anyone to buy my son anything not even his dad. Now we have another child i still feel solely responsible to make sure everything is done and they have anything they need. Am i crazy?
Men are wired to be the caregiver and for many men, when their wife gets a job and can be independent, they see it as a threat and get even more defensive.