what is a daughter supposed to do?
My mom hates my boyfriend because I met him online. But only for that fact. I did lie to her about it to try to get her to attempt to like him. He has a clean record but has made a few mistakes that were expunged and shouldn't have been able to be found by her. Additionally my boyfriend had told me about those but i didn't want to talk to her about something so privet. Additionally he just turned 25 and he is trying to get back on his feet and my dad hacks his accounts stalking his life and telling me about "information" and ""the truth"" when I already know about these things.They keep throwing it back in my face every five minutes.
But I don't want to talk about till the calm down about everything. it has been causing problems ever since, she's been holding money over my head. Acting like I'm doing drugs and had even ruined my rep at my old school by barricading me in my dorm room and causing a scene when a guard let her up without me knowing that she was coming or letting me sign her in as I was supposed to. Now she is going to my friends and talking to them as if my boyfriend is abusing me and its freaking them out. Ruining most of my friendships as well as business connections. She also thinks he's a con artist because I help him out by buying him food and having him stay at my place till he gets back on his feet while he looks for a job so he doesn't have to go back to the shelter where he was in horrible conditions and the people partied all night. When I want to talk to her about anything she's always bringing up my boyfriend instead of talking about how I do not feel validated,respected or listened to in our relationship. Or she brings up how well she raised me and tries to guilt me into submission. Its like she's afraid to treat me as an equal in her relationship with me.
I want to know if she is right in what she is doing, because I understand her out rage but I think she's handling the situation incorrectly. do you agree? Or am I doing something wrong because I don't know how to handle this. I know how to handle most things. But this is something that has been irking me and when I talked to my psychologist about it she's acting like I should get the hell out of my relationship with my mom. But I want to try to fix it because I love her and I want her support again. So what do I do? What do I say to her?
worse part is if I loose my family I loose my college support, my loving support, and my family. But I send her a message that she cannot do this to get what she wants and I will stand strong and find a way to make things work.
If I loose my boyfriend I loose the only piece of sanity in my life I have left and what the closest thing to a normal family I have left. Then that sends the message I can be pushed around into submission and it will end up that she pulls more stunts like this causing me to in the future to loose my job.