persobal question regarding marriage

well how do i begin first of i love my husband but sometimes he drives me nuts there are time we are okay with each other and other times we cant stand each other the other day he told me that if i wanted to be with other people we should separate and go our seperate ways and that he just doesnt trust me at all ...i been saying that to him for the past year when we had our second kid and now since i went back to college and hopefully be done wih college he wants to do that ... i think ita because i dont feel like having sex w him im just dont and he wants to if hes lucky maybe 3 times per month. and i think he wants to be with someone else hes just doesnt want to admit that im not sure . we are the most part fightning or arguing and im just tired of it and want to be over with. he is constantly checking my phone and wants to know where im at all the time and even checks my school backpack and even freaks out im im dressed up ...i cant do nothing without him knowing about it i tired ...i dnt know what to do or think about it.....i want to seperate for a while at least to see if were meant for each oher we known each other 10 yrs and been married 6 but we had our ups and downs and for the most part i just want out

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    07/22/16
    any advice ois greatly appreciated
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      07/23/16
      that is difficult, i know how it feels my husband and myself have had our ups and down have tried separating and still end up coming back to each other. I wouldn't jump straight to divorce unless you are completely certain about it. I don't know policy in your state but up here in Michigan a divorce with minor children has a minimum 6 month waiting period to give the couple the chance to reconcile if they do. But I suggest that you two take some time to find yourselves, not to go date and be with other people but to get back to being you and him being him and maybe then you could see why you fell in love and got married in the first place. If you two see that you are better off co-parenting then you would have made that decision with certainty that you two just aren't going to work and could remain friends for your kids so they know that both of their parents love them and still can care for each other with out being nasty to each other. Best of luck to you and and your family I hope you choose the path that is best for you.
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        07/23/16
        I want to say something but if it offends someone, I am very, very sorry for offending you. I don't mean it in a bad way.

        Do you know that movie Fireproof?
        In the movie the husband and wife also had problems with trust and fighting and so on. Then his father told him about the book Fireproof. You have to do certain things on certain days for your husband. And at the beginning it was very hard for the husband to do it. But he pulled through. I bought this book when me and my husband had problems with trust and fighting all the time and I did these things without him knowing that I bought the book and that I am doing the things. At the end we fell in love all over again and its been 4 years since and we are very happy and in love. Go goole it and see what you think of it.
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          07/27/16
          Every couple has their ups and downs. Sex is the number one thing that is very important to men. For women who have children and families to take care of on top of having a job, find that sex is the last thing on their mind. Men don't understand that our hormones are different. Men that we should just stop on a dime and give it to them 24/7 lol. Communication is another big factor that breaks down during a relationship, because most of the time men don't understand our feelings. You have to find a way to make your point simple and to the point for them to understand anything your going through. Try counseling first before you make any separation decisions. Good Luck.
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          07/27/16
          Thank u all for the advice and yes tracy its so true ill be txt ur comment to him so he can view it .
          things are better now he talked things over and i told him too that if he wanted to date someone else to get out and dont come back he wont be allowed bear my kids ...
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            07/27/16
            he said no that he wants this to work for the good of our children it was that he wanted a third kid and i dont want one at least not yet maybe in the future like in 4 years or maybe more
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