Gulp! Is this really happening?
Mamas.. weigh in! Are we really raising helpless kiddos? Times have DEFINITELY changed... please weigh in with your opinion below!
I agree, Lisa! Social media doesn't help at all.. I loved hearing the line... "you are comparing your 'behind closed doors' to someone else's highlight reel" ..it's SO true! People don't (most don't) the crap in life.. the awful days.. the losing a job.. the fight with a husband.. they post the vacation, the gifts, etc... I find it so sad that parents don't let kiddos fail anymore.. my parents and I are VERY close, they would do anything for me.. but they never intervened where they shouldn't.. they let me learn SO much on my own, for that I am forever thankful. I think it can even be pin pointed to kids not having as much alone time in just playing, all by themselves, in their rooms.. remember doing that for hours on end? I do. Nowadays Moms are told they aren't doing enough if they are not interacting with kiddos 24/7... they need to learn independence too!
I love all that Mara.. I love the kind of Mom you are.. it's going to make them kick butt kiddos as adults.. independent and ground people... parents aren't meant to be kids best friends.. they are parents.. your job (one of them) is to try and mold them into the best PERSON they can be.. no one wants a cry baby! :)
I think its so true. Most kids have been handed everything, And because of that they feel entitled to something, well everything. It's sad really. They think they don't have to earn anything. It's part of life you have to earn what you want and work for it. I think every parent needs to step back a little. That is our jobs as parents to teach our children to one day go on without us and to sometimes handle certian situations without us.. And they need to learn that sometimes bad things happen and there's nothing you or anyone else can do about it, it's just part of life. I'm in the same boat as Mara a lot of people think i'm to hard on my kids but even at a young age they need to know you work for what you want and you'll get rewarded in the end, and life happens and things happen and they need to learn to deal and handle them in the right ways. I'm mean just cause you failed a test in college doesn't mean you can cry to mommy and her come down to the school stomping her foot and huffing and puffing and get your grade hanged that's something you have to work hard for.
I agree completely Tessa! Teaching kids to take responsibility for THEMSELVES, everything about themselves.. I feel like doesn't exist anymore. I NEVER thought about crying to my parents about a grade.. if I ever got a grade I was horrified at.. I was mad at MYSELF.. not the teacher.. like I said above.. parents need to take their job more seriously.. it isn't to be your child's bff.. it's to help mold them into the best person, adult, wife, husband, mom or dad they can be!
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