ex husband drama!!

ok so im new at this but need a place to vent and talk to other moms so here i go. hate to be negative nancy here but me and my husband have recently split and i was a stay at home mom and we agreed on child support outside of court and i was counting on that money to buy christmas presents for my son and now he is refusing to give it to me and i have nothing for my son! He is only worried about his new gf and her kid and i cant take it. i have tried to be nice and not go through court cause i know it will be a lot on him but he isnt caring about being nice to me so why and i still being nice??? i guess i should have thought about this well before now but today is the first time he is refusing to give me the money and i dont know what to do!?! I guess its no more mr. nice guy here and time i start caring about what will hurt him and worry about what will help me and my son!

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    12/19/13
    Aw.. so sorry you are going through this, Hali... my Dad is a retired Judge and FAR too often he saw this happen.. if you want anything concrete, even if you thought you could trust him.. you need things in legal binding writing... from visitation to child support.. even if you ARE getting along wonderfully, it's really important to have those guidelines set up.. because, just like you are experiencing.. you never know :(

    Wishing you the best of luck.. please keep us posted!
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      12/19/13
      Becky
      Its a HARD situation... But court is probably the best thing for both sides, that why everything is set in stone and documented thru court so its fair on both side's and RULES are followed, so no one get a hot head and do wrong to the other parent. After all the CHILDREN in the matter come first and should be cared for by both parents. Good luck hope he comes to his senses soon and step up and do HIS part! :) Merry Christmas to you and you're sweet Little boy. ♥
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      12/19/13
      Becky
      Way*** not why :)
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        12/19/13
        We get along great and everything has been fine for months up until now. i dont really know what is going on now. We have a set schedule on days with both of us and the child support but since he has got a girl friend who is very nice and i like her a lot he has just changed. After the first of the year i guess i will be going to court that way he cant just change his mind and do whats best for him. Obviously I never wanted it this way but we both agreed amicably to split and still remain friends but i guess this happens all the often and we need it legal! Thank you all for the kind words and support!
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          12/19/13
          8Theresa Gould
          I'm so sorry you have to deal with this right at Christmas time. What is your instincts telling you?
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          About Hali
          Birth: October 01
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          I am a stay at home mom to the most wonderful 3 year old little boy! My life had never been more complete till i had him! He is my reason for living and i cant wait to have more babies! i love being a mother!!!!