im confused im not sure rather to give my child my last name or its father's last name. Things have not been going well with him since i found out that im pregnant.:(

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    12/19/13
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    12/19/13
    My only concern is that the father will change his mind about being in my child's life. I don't want to have to raise a child on my own. But as far as a name maybe you are right. I just never considered giving my child my last name at all but maybe i should.
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      12/19/13
      4Nicole
      I would consider using both names with a hyphen. At least he won't or shouldn't be offended by this. I've read that his behavior can be common. Maybe suggest counseling if he is having trouble. He might just be afraid and not know how to express it.
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        12/19/13
        8Theresa Gould
        When my sisters got pregnant as teens one of them did just her last name - she did not stay with that father. The other did her last name hyphened with the father's and they are still married today over 20 years later. I think you have to do what your gut tells you and what you think is best.
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          First, I think if you have lots of time to decide. Second, my parents divorced when I was young and my mother remarried. I kept my fathers last name but she took her husbands so we didn't have the same last name. She was our primary care giver so in school, at sporting events, and even at doctors appointments we'd have to deal with the fact that our names didn't match. It usually worked out fine but it was a pain to deal with records that got screwed up because they filed our info under the wrong last name. I actually was denied a prescription once because the doctor wrote it for me but with my moms last name. My ID didn't match so they couldn't give it to me!

          Long story short, I think the child should have the last name of their primary care giver. If you know that's gonna be you, but aren't sure about the father I'd go with your last name. If he proves himself and really stays apart of the baby's life you can always change it later.
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          Born: New Iberia, Louisiana
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          Birth: September 21
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          College student. Single mommy to be. I have bitter sweet feelings about being pregnant. im def scared.
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