I am going though the loss of a miscarriage, and right now I'm trying to make it. I feel like I don't know if I am coming or going. Can anyone tell me how to start to get my life back.

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    8Theresa Gould
    Sorry to hear about your loss. I've had six miscarriages all between 8 and 18 weeks, with the majority between 11-14 weeks. It's hard and if it just happened you have to allow yourself to grieve and grief has no time table and it comes in waves. Many moms find it therapeutic to get involved in a cause. I know I donated to our local crisis pregnancy center a couple of times. Creating a memorial of some sort to remember your baby by is often helpful in keeping the memory of this child alive. Others find help and support in going to grief counseling or a support group for pregnancy loss. Your doctor or hospital in your area could help you find one.
      I'm soooo so sorry. Going through my miscarriages was the hardest thing I've ever gone through in my life. I felt like I'd been tricked, like I was a fool for getting all excited and planning for our baby. I felt like the universe was laughing at me. I couldn't even walk past the baby section at the store and I took a 6 month break from Facebook just to avoid hearing about other peoples baby news. I cried a lot and fought with my husband just because he was the only person I could lash out towards.

      I started journaling and posting on forums of other women who experienced loss. Writing all of the negative feelings I was having sort of took the weight off me. I did tons of research (I had two losses in 4 months so I refused to believe they were just flukes like most miscarriages are) and made a plan with my doctor. We tried again and got pregnant right away again. I was a wreck the whole time even though I had a new treatment plan in place. It wasn't until my 20 week ultrasound when I got to see my daughter and give her a name that I really believed life was good again.

      I don't know if that's helpful but please no that you're not alone. I'd be happy to talk anytime, just send me a message
        Sorry :( It's tough but you will get back to being yourself again soon. It was hard for me once too. But, you start to feel better. When your ready.
          Renae, I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad you are reaching out. It is so difficult when you loved your child though he/she is not here yet. It is also hard for those around you to know what to do or say. I'm not sure you really do get of the loss of your child but life will get better. It has been a year and half since I lost twins at 10 weeks. I still have bad days but there are definitely more good than bad at this point. I will pray for you, I know the Lord is the healer of my broken heart.
          About Renae Weaver
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          Birth: November 14
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          I just had a miscarriage. And I am trying to just get though each day without crying all the time.
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