The In laws
Do any of you other moms have troubles with your in laws? Especially your mother in law? My MIL is like 64 and I am only 23 so as you can see, there is a huge generation gap here. Our relationship used to be great! Before I had my son, we could have hour long conversations, go shopping and out to lunch, bake together, I'd do her nails, she taught me how to crochet, we could talk about (almost) anything. Then after I had my son, everything changed. She didn't like the fact that I breastfeed. (My son is 13 months tomorrow and still going strong...yay!) Even before I had my son, she would always say, "What if you don't have enough milk?" "What if your milk isn't healthy enough for him?" Things like that but I thought they would stop, or at least slow down once he was here and she realized, I got this. But it hasn't. It went from what if you aren't enough, to is he eating again, or that wasn't very long, to he needs more baby food, he needs more regular food. Now I know this is a grandma thing and just about everyone does it, even sometimes random people. But it seems like she doesn't know when to stop. It is starting to get into my head and was very hard to not let it get to me, especially when my son was just born and we had a rough start to breastfeeding. Now I feel like she questions my every move with my son. Sometimes I snap and then it causes trouble between my boyfriend and me. The last spout was on my birthday and she now thinks I hate her. If I don't do something about it, then she will just hate me and all of this will be 10x's worse. It will be even more worse if my boyfriend and I split up because of it. I don't know what to do. I text her and told her I think we need to get together and talk about things but she never replied. I don't want to bring it up again until after the holidays but tonight and tomorrow when we go over there is going to be very weird. What should I do?!
She probably does think she knows more than you since she has already been through it all, but she seems to have over stepped the boundaries of what is acceptable. I don't have a close relationship with my mil, she's 81, and has been vocal about things that I just don't need or want to hear so I keep my distance, which is easy to do since we no longer live close to her.
I hope you can have a chat with her. It sounds like you had a good relationship with her before your son was born. Good luck.