Time away?? Help me please??????

my daughter is 5 months old and I have been with her almost every minute of her life. I breast feed only. No bottles and I'm not a good pumper. I have to take her everywhere I go!! My mom is the only one who can watch her for me while I'm here. She nurses on demand which is all the time!! What in the world can I do to get her used to other people while I'm not around? She is very social and loves people but usually I'm around. We are not on a schedule for anything.

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Kim BroadwaterKingsport, Tennessee
    01/01/14
    8Theresa Gould
    She's pretty young and that's about the age when separation anxiety can be heightened in some babies. Maybe have whoever you'd leave her with come to the house and play with her and you leave the room after they get acquainted for five minutes to start and slowly work that time up to the amount of time you want to be gone?
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      01/01/14
      I never breastfed so I can't relate to that but I can relate to never wanting to go anywhere but intensely wanting to go somewhere at the same time. My youngest is four and I still feel so guilty when I want a break. My advice is to start small and leave her for only an hour or so and of course only when you know she's full. And begin to work on a routine. By six months infants seem to fall into one and you can recognize it. I never forced a routine onto my children but they seemed to work into one that was best for them and worked in our busy household. Good Luck!
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        01/01/14
        1.prepare to separate: have your child stay a bit longer than usual with a grandma or babysitter
        2. your daughter picks up on your cues and reacts: look for an activity she may enjoy and let your mom guide her in that direction so that she will have something to do.
        3.Your child may be more likely to have a fit when you leave if she is tired, hungry or restless. If you can, leave when your daughter is fed and rested.
        4.Offer a special blanket, stuffed animal or other comforting object for your daughter to hold while you're gone.
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          01/01/14
          Kim Broadwater
          I do not have to work so I'm home all the time. But even just a simple errand turns into a huge thing. I also have a 16 yr old daughter I would like to be able to take her out etc. but I don't. The baby won't even let my husband her dad watch her. I'll have to take it small like suggested. I thinking will keep a journey to see her routine and go from there
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            01/01/14
            I really don't have any advice on this, so I hope the other moms comments help you out! I just wanted to chime in that I used to live right near Kingsport and am happy to see somebody from our neck of the woods around here!
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              01/01/14
              I think u answered your own questions.
              You need a schedule and no more on demand feeding as it seems like your also a pacifier.
              Hard to do but better for both of you. She needs to be with another adult too... It's soooo important for her. Especially a grandma. And u can go to a movie. It will be life changing
              Feeding schedule and no falling asleep at breast.. Put her down more and remember its okay for her to fuss. Also if she's hungry she will take a bottle but you CANNOT be in the house. They can smell you... I promise. She won't go hungry.
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                01/01/14
                Kim Broadwater
                she will take a bottle, I just don't have time to make them. She's always on the breast! Anytime I of pump I only gat 2 ounces from each, then she is ready to eat again. I read she should be eating 40 ounces by now? I'm not sure she's getting that. She is a very happy and content baby. Gaining weight etc. I feed her baby food once or twice a day. Yes she will only fall asleep while nursing. And yes we co sleep. That was not my intention at all. But it has ended up that way. I try and put her in her crib little by little. She hardly naps during the day just takes very small cat naps. I will start recording her feeding a and sleep tomorrow.

                Cassandra where did you live?
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