Need Advise about Toddler and Step Daughters

So I have two wonderful step daughters (7 and 5) and I have a 1 year old boy. My step daughters are only with us during long breaks from school; basically just winter break (10 days) and summer break (2 1/2) months. Well, my son was only a month old last year when they were here for winter break and he was only about 7 months during summer break and I do not think he really noticed the girls being here or leaving.

Well this time (he is 13 months old) he seems to really have noticed that they left today. He is walking back and forth from the living room and play room (where they always played... all day long) and from his room to their room. Is this signs that he misses them? If so, how can we ease this absence of his sisters for him. It is hard enough for us to say goodbye to them but now it is even harder because it seems to be effecting him. Does anyone else know what this is like or know how to deal with it?

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4Pam OttoFairmont, West Virginia
    01/01/14
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    4Pam Otto
    We wish we could, they live about 12 hours away! My husband is in the army and we are trying to get relocated closer to the girls; however, the army tends to do whatever is best for it rather then the families. We had the girls say goodbye to him but he doesn't seem to understand goodbye other then people leaving the room. He seems to always expect them to come back at some point.

    I just wish things were easier. We already are heart broken having to say goodbye but now it is even harder knowing that he misses them. We are hoping now that all of the kids got a better connection that their mom will let them call or will pick up the phone more for us.
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    4Pam Otto
    We do and we have tried a few times. It seems that their mom or her boyfriend are trying to put a rock between the families though. They have stopped letting the girls skype, they do not let the girls call anymore, and they rarely pick up when we call. It really is a sad situation and I know it is hard on the girls but I worry about how my son will be with it too.
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      4Pam Otto
      I agree 100%
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        yes!!! I know exactly. I married a man with a 6 month old son... Then we had kids.. And we shared time with my step son and when he would leave my kids would miss him. It was hard to watch because you don't want your kids to feel sad, but this is what I know now (step son is 13 and my kids are 7 and 9)...
        They miss them for a short fleeting amount of time... Missing them is GOOD.. Find a few sentences that you tell your son every time. Every. Time. Something like... " I know your sisters miss you so much and we all love having them here but they have a different mommy and need to be with her too. They'll be back soon"
        Then maybe have him draw them a picture and mail it to them? Maybe they can respond if their birth mom is cool?
        Also. The days he would leave I made sure we did something.. Park, walk, play date.. He's too little to grasp it all.. Give him words to his feelings.
        And as a mom.. Remember. This is good for him .. He will adapt and understand things better than others. It's his life. They just accept it. My kids know nothing else.. And are happy and funny and silly kids.
        He's lucky to have them and you'll see.. When u say matter of factory that their leaving he will be fine. Might be bummed. But that's ok!!!
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          4Pam Otto
          Sheila and Jessica thank you for the advice... we will definitely try those next time and as he gets older!
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            01/02/14
            Tessa
            I'm sure he misses them :(. My girls are a little older but we go threw this every weekend. I have my nephew every weekend and then he has to go back to his maternal grandmothers(she has temporary custody). They all kiss and hug each other bye and are usually fine but half way threw the week they are whinning and wanting to know when he's coming back. They are more like brother and sisters than cousins, they've been raised together. I just tell them it's ok to miss him and he misses them too and we will see him again soon. I'll have them color him a picture for when he gets back or we call him.
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            Tessa
            Its so sad when adults cant act like adults(their mom) and put the kids first. They are the most important thing regardless of other situations( feelings towards the other parents)
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              4Pam Otto
              Thank you all for the advice and I can not wait until he is older so he can start verbalizing that he misses them and can understand me when I say they will be back and that they miss him too!
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              About Pam Otto
              Current: Fairmont, West Virginia
              Birth: April 09
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              I am a 30 year old mom of to 4 amazing children. I have 2 beautiful step-daughters, a son, and a daughter! I also am a wife of an amazing man who I could not thank God enough for!