Need Advise about Toddler and Step Daughters
So I have two wonderful step daughters (7 and 5) and I have a 1 year old boy. My step daughters are only with us during long breaks from school; basically just winter break (10 days) and summer break (2 1/2) months. Well, my son was only a month old last year when they were here for winter break and he was only about 7 months during summer break and I do not think he really noticed the girls being here or leaving.
Well this time (he is 13 months old) he seems to really have noticed that they left today. He is walking back and forth from the living room and play room (where they always played... all day long) and from his room to their room. Is this signs that he misses them? If so, how can we ease this absence of his sisters for him. It is hard enough for us to say goodbye to them but now it is even harder because it seems to be effecting him. Does anyone else know what this is like or know how to deal with it?
I just wish things were easier. We already are heart broken having to say goodbye but now it is even harder knowing that he misses them. We are hoping now that all of the kids got a better connection that their mom will let them call or will pick up the phone more for us.
They miss them for a short fleeting amount of time... Missing them is GOOD.. Find a few sentences that you tell your son every time. Every. Time. Something like... " I know your sisters miss you so much and we all love having them here but they have a different mommy and need to be with her too. They'll be back soon"
Then maybe have him draw them a picture and mail it to them? Maybe they can respond if their birth mom is cool?
Also. The days he would leave I made sure we did something.. Park, walk, play date.. He's too little to grasp it all.. Give him words to his feelings.
And as a mom.. Remember. This is good for him .. He will adapt and understand things better than others. It's his life. They just accept it. My kids know nothing else.. And are happy and funny and silly kids.
He's lucky to have them and you'll see.. When u say matter of factory that their leaving he will be fine. Might be bummed. But that's ok!!!