I would love to be a SAHM and put all of my energy into my kids and home, but we're not lucky enough to afford that. The next best thing is for me to work from home, which is a hard balance, but I don't think I ever want to go back to an office job.
I've always felt like in order to have a happy family and healthy home there needs to be one person in charge of running the house. I don't think it matters whether or not that person is the man or the woman, it's just something that needs to be done. It seems like even before my daughter was born when my husband and I were both working full time we never had time to take care of our home. It was a struggle to find a few hours to grocery shop, cook, clean, do home repairs, and keep things organized. now that my daughter is here I couldn't imagine how far behind we'd be!
I just didn't want to have a full-time job and only have enough time to be a part-time parent!
It's too bad that its not always an option for a lot of families.
I was able to be home with my kids early on and am so grateful. Once they were school aged I worked while they were in school and made sure I was able to be there at pick up.
But I'm lucky. And a single mom. We don't have a big house. We have a tiny apartment and my kids share a room. But I'd rather be available to them and sleep on the couch then not be available and have our own bedrooms.
My kids are happy and silly and kind.
But not everyone can do that. Some don't know how and some have no choice.
It's worth the struggle to me.
My kids are older a bit now and I'm working harder and more and can focus now on my career. And they understand. And are supportive. But I wouldn't change being there only for them early on.