I would love to be a SAHM and put all of my energy into my kids and home, but we're not lucky enough to afford that. The next best thing is for me to work from home, which is a hard balance, but I don't think I ever want to go back to an office job.

I've always felt like in order to have a happy family and healthy home there needs to be one person in charge of running the house. I don't think it matters whether or not that person is the man or the woman, it's just something that needs to be done. It seems like even before my daughter was born when my husband and I were both working full time we never had time to take care of our home. It was a struggle to find a few hours to grocery shop, cook, clean, do home repairs, and keep things organized. now that my daughter is here I couldn't imagine how far behind we'd be!

I just didn't want to have a full-time job and only have enough time to be a part-time parent!

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    I think the ideal is that a parent is home with the kids. Especially in the early years.
    It's too bad that its not always an option for a lot of families.
    I was able to be home with my kids early on and am so grateful. Once they were school aged I worked while they were in school and made sure I was able to be there at pick up.
    But I'm lucky. And a single mom. We don't have a big house. We have a tiny apartment and my kids share a room. But I'd rather be available to them and sleep on the couch then not be available and have our own bedrooms.
    My kids are happy and silly and kind.
    But not everyone can do that. Some don't know how and some have no choice.
    It's worth the struggle to me.
    My kids are older a bit now and I'm working harder and more and can focus now on my career. And they understand. And are supportive. But I wouldn't change being there only for them early on.
      Belinda Hannah
      I agree with you. I have three kids who are now 19, 17, and 13 and I have been a stay at home mom with no job, and I have been a mom that has worked outside of the house. But staying home with no work was hard money wise and that was my reason for going to work outside of the house. The only problem with that is like you were saying we were constantly working and we never had time to really spend with the kids, take care of the house and not mention we haven't had a vacation in probably three years or more cause we had to work 6-7 days a week. This past November I got laid off from my job and soon my unemployment will be over so I have been doing some research online for work at home jobs, and it hasn't been easy because of scams and all. But today I came across a legit work from home job and in the process of talking to one of the representatives that works with the company and if all goes well then I will be working from home with this company. Working outside of my home I feel like I have missed out on so much of my children lives, time that I cannot get back. But if this job works out I hope to spend more time with them and enjoy them as much as I can even though they are a lot older.
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      Current: Chanhassen, Minnesota
      Birth: July 26
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      I'm the proud mama of my daughter Avery, born on June 6, 2013. I'm 26 years old, I work from home as a graphic designer, I will be testing for my 5th degree black belt in Tae Kwon Do in 2015. My husband, Derek, and I have been happily married for 3 years.