Tips for dealing with working moms guilt

You know what? I don't know that I have any tips because I often struggle with working moms guilt even though I work from home and out of necessity. But see, I remember the days when I was a full-time mom completely focused on home and family and now it isn't the same. My oldest remembers and sometimes I think she wishes it could be like it was and that makes me feel guilty, that and the fact I am not providing the same experience to my younger children - all they've known is a working mom.

So what are your tips for dealing with working moms guilt?

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8Theresa GouldChicago, Illinois
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01/21/14
8Theresa Gould
I do try to do things with the children (take them on an errand, bake with them, tickle them, snuggle with them etc.) and I am still interacting with them during the day or helping them with school work but I still have mommy guilt. I know in part it's silly but another part of me thinks there's more to it if it doesn't go away, you know?
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    01/21/14
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    01/21/14
    8Theresa Gould
    Sheila Romingerbut I'm not talking about just working outside the home, I'm talking about having mommy guilt when I am working from/at home.
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    01/23/14
    8Theresa Gould
    My children have had to learn to do a lot for themselves already and at young ages. They do most of the cooking, they help with laundry and clean up, dishes and with the farm. They do a lot more than the average kid and I don't want to short change them or make them hate me when they get older or as they get older.
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      Oh I am sure I will experience this.. I already do with my dogs!!!! ha I would try to look at is.. as blessed.. to be ABLE to work from home and catch snippets with them that working outside the home Moms never could.. you get to provide for them, eventually teach them being such a hard worker too.. try to turn that guilt into the blessing of what you DO have.. a commute from your bedroom to your desk :)
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      01/23/14
      8Theresa Gould
      That's true but when you have your older child struggling, it really makes you re-think things.
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        01/22/14
        I quit my out of the home job to work at home 2 years ago. It is amazing how people think when you work at home you really aren't working. Other work at home Moms really get the idea that it is harder though. The balance of taking time to meet my son's needs as well as the business' needs is a challenge. You will find me in my office working after bedtime quite a bit to get caught up. I used to feel frustrated that I had to work late evening but then I remembered that I am blessed to be home with my son during the daytime hours and didn't have to have someone else watching him. I know many Moms that work part time hours out of the home in the evening and miss so many things so they can be home with their children. I luckily can earn a full time income and still be home. But, truly it is a challenge some days. When I need to be on a conference call, I have a bucket of special toys my son can play with. They are his need to be quiet toys and none make noise. I have a bucket of small toys, stickers, etc. that he used to able pick out of when I was on the phone. Now he is good about being quiet when the phone rings. Hope this helps!
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        01/23/14
        8Theresa Gould
        All my children are above the age of 3, so it's different than having babies and toddlers.
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          it's hard. I struggle with it all the time. My daughter has a really good caregiver and it helps a lot, but it still is a struggle for me emotionally.

          As soon as we get home, we spend every moment together. I am a single mom, so I really don't do a whole lot outside of work and spending time with my daughter. On weekends, I try to do fun things.

          I don't do a whole lot without her during the hours I am not working.
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            01/23/14
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            01/23/14
            8Theresa Gould
            I do work from home but thank you!
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              01/24/14
              5Natasha Raisor
              We must try to remember as Mom's that we will always feel guilty about something. If we work (whether from home or outside the home) we feel guilty for "short changing" our children. If we did stay at home, we would feel guilty about the struggles our families endure due to that decision. As a mom, you will always feel like you should be doing something more, something better. Its then that we have to remember there is a much bigger picture. Our children, while momentarily might feel a bit abandoned, will not honestly suffer from our working as long as we spend quality time when we have it. Its not about quantity but quality. Our children will remember that we worked hard to provide for them and that we were there for the moments that mattered most, which often are not the ones that we as parents think they will be!
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              8Theresa Gould
              Ashley Jonesthis was about work-at-home mom guilt. I work from home too and I do an early morning newspaper route when everyone is sleeping too, but I still consider that work at home since I can take my children and I am here all day for them.
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              01/28/14
              8Theresa Gould
              I guess unless you've been a stay at home mom for years and then have had to work, most will just not get what I am feeling, especially after hearing what my older daughter has said. I am extremely grateful to be able to work from home, that doesn't change my feelings.
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              01/29/14
              8Theresa Gould
              Yep, some days I think our children don't realize how good they've got it with both of us being home because they've always had at least me. In the last six years, my husband has been home 25 months of those 72 months, that's a good chunk. Yet, I am not completely focused on them anymore, my time is divided and therein lies the internal struggle. I use to be so focused on them and I think that's what they miss at times, especially my oldest who remembers so much more. I can't say I blame her/them, but it's an adjustment and she probably thinks about when she's going to be out on her own etc. Definitely a new chapter, for sure.
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