feeling frustrated....

my 9 yr old will not listen to me any suggestion on how to deal with a 9 yr old girl, she thinks she is 20 :/ I've taken her favorite things from her but it just doesn't work uggh don't know what else to do!!!

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JESS CRUZ
    01/22/14
    JESS CRUZ
    we didn't give her a phone but we just bought her a tablet she loves video games and is very good on the computer I took her games and tablet away. I have another daughter who is 5 and my little boy who is 1yr old. of course the girls fight all the time but my problem with my 9 yr old is her attitude she has an answer for everything.... when the adults are having a conversation she speaks her opinion and my 5 yr old of course does everything her older sister does so this concerns me alot. my 9 yr old attitude is bad and what scares me is she is very sneaky and lies like nothing... things just flow out of her mouth with no fear, now she doesn't try to talk over you she is just sarcastic in a sneaky in a very non chalant way, so this morning I asked her to put her boots on because of course here in NY we had a snow storm last night and she had on her sneakers for school, so I said Natalia put on your boots take your sneakers in your bookbag and you can change at school, she replied calmly no I do not want to I said you are going to get wet by the time you go to class your sneakers will be soaked and she insisted NO i am going to wear my sneakers so I said if you do not wear your boots you will not have access to your tablet or games for the week, she had no answer and still went to school with her sneakers on!!!! insane I got so frustrated you can imagine.... this is something that goes on I try to talk to her and I just feel like I talk to the wall I know she thinks this is me and I do what I want to do I don't get it shes only 9!!!
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      01/22/14
      JESS CRUZ
      Mara, thank you for your suggestsion definitely I have to be more consistent since I work full time Im home by 7pm everyday she takes advantage of that, its hard and I think I have to start looking into working from home :0
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        01/22/14
        JESS CRUZ
        I do I.T work now for a private collection company Thanks Sheila :)
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