5 year old getting in trouble at school.
Hi, I am new to this site and I am having a bit of a dilemma. My 5 year old son Alun has been getting into trouble for hitting and kicking at school. It has escalated over the last few weeks to the point they are now sending him home if he harms anyone. I have tried everything I can think of to help him understand that this is not acceptable behavior at school or anywhere. Any suggestions?
What is the school doing to discipline him when this behavior is happening? I have found that for a child that age the discipline should happen right away and should be done by the school. Waiting until he gets home and expecting you to handle it is not going to help.
I suggest having a meeting with his teacher, see what they think is causing this behavior, is there anything happening before hand that could give them a clue, what positive reward system could you and them put in place, etc.
Is this his first school environment experience? Also find out if there is something going on at school. Or could be something out of school. Like with a friends child or someone who might be older than your son that he plays with. There are so many things that can be going on. Just let him know that no matter what you are there for him and to listen to his feelings. Also is there or has anything changed at home?
Also, don't underestimate the power of talking to him even at young age. Ask home why he hit someone. If it's because he was angry ask him what he thinks would be a betr way to act when he's angry. Give him suggestions bu don't talk AT him. If he can come to the answer himself he'll be more likely to use it in the actual situation.
Does he sleep well through out the night?