5 year old getting in trouble at school.

Hi, I am new to this site and I am having a bit of a dilemma. My 5 year old son Alun has been getting into trouble for hitting and kicking at school. It has escalated over the last few weeks to the point they are now sending him home if he harms anyone. I have tried everything I can think of to help him understand that this is not acceptable behavior at school or anywhere. Any suggestions?

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    01/27/14
    4Katie
    Welcome to the site!

    What is the school doing to discipline him when this behavior is happening? I have found that for a child that age the discipline should happen right away and should be done by the school. Waiting until he gets home and expecting you to handle it is not going to help.
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    01/27/14
    4Katie
    I don't think talking recess away works, they need to be able to get their extra energy out. I think sending him home wont work either because then he learns if he does something bad he is allowed to go home.

    I suggest having a meeting with his teacher, see what they think is causing this behavior, is there anything happening before hand that could give them a clue, what positive reward system could you and them put in place, etc.
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        01/27/14
        Presencia Luciano
        Welcome!

        Is this his first school environment experience? Also find out if there is something going on at school. Or could be something out of school. Like with a friends child or someone who might be older than your son that he plays with. There are so many things that can be going on. Just let him know that no matter what you are there for him and to listen to his feelings. Also is there or has anything changed at home?
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          01/27/14
          I'm sorry! Does he hit and kick at home too? The only reason I ask is because I agree that the discipline need to happen immediately following the behavior. If you catch him doing it at home you can address it right away.

          Also, don't underestimate the power of talking to him even at young age. Ask home why he hit someone. If it's because he was angry ask him what he thinks would be a betr way to act when he's angry. Give him suggestions bu don't talk AT him. If he can come to the answer himself he'll be more likely to use it in the actual situation.
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            01/27/14
            Presencia Luciano
            Have you brought this to you doctor's attention? There could be something beyond school happening here.
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              01/27/14
              Yes this is his first school experience. He was having some issues at the beggining of the year but seemed to have gotten used to the adjustment until right after Christmas break then he begun to be super aggressive towards the children (and staff) at school. Sometimes he's aggressive at home but not often, I can usually diffuse most situations. He has a appointment with a therapist on Thursday. I'm hoping that will help because I'm out of ideas. I don't want him causing disruption at school but I cant end up with him home everyday because they don't know what to do either.
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                01/27/14
                Presencia Luciano
                I understand how getting back to a school schedule is hard after being home for the holidays. I'm glad that you have an appointment and I hope they can come to a conclusion but I hope it doesn't warrant him to have to take medication. I hope everything works for the best.

                Does he sleep well through out the night?
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                  01/27/14
                  Presencia Luciano
                  You are most welcome. That is what this site is for.
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                  I am a 29 years old small business owner. Married for 10 years and we have a 5 year old son named Alun. He's a super spirited kid with tons of energy. We show horses and cars. I would love to make some good mommy friends.