Spanking is a sign of disciplining our child. It depends upon the kind of behavior/fault/mistake our kids do or made.

At the age of 1 yr old I began to say 'no or say don't do that ok,' like when he/she eats and puts out the food from his/her mouth to play with it and make a mess. When he/she keeps repeating it again and again then I gave a hint execute a light spanking to his/her hand that way they would have a little bit of an understanding what he/she did was bad. Same thing when you dress/undress/change their underwear oftentimes they don't want to do that or hard for them to change. Talk to them in a nice lovingly way there's no need of spanking them for little things they do that annoy us moms they're still very young. Patience and understanding go hand in hand here.

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    01/29/14
    My mother had anger issues and she would get so angry she didn't even remember what she did to me, but I did. Spanking me, shaking me by my neck, screaming at me for hours, making me sleep in the garage, and more. My dad said one time he came home from work and she was spanking me on the stairs so hard he thought I was gonna break in half. I was only 2! She definitely went overboard, but it took until I was in Junior High for me to realize that she was the one with the problem. I was convinced that I was a terrible child and I was the only kid who ever wet my bed, threw up in the car, forgot to put my dishes in the sink, etc.

    Because of that I will do my best to never punish Avery when I'm angry. If she does something that upsets me and I feel like I'm getting too angry I will send her to her room until I calm down. Then I will give her whatever punishment fits the crime. I don't think a little smack on the hand when you want them to pay attention is bad, as long as it's not done out of anger.
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      01/29/14
      Does anyone have advice on how to cope with feeling overwhelmed. At times I feel like I am a terrible mother to my 2 year old son. He wants my attention and at times I just need to be left alone. My fiancé works opposite shift as I do so is like being a single mom at times. Im afraid I will lose my patience and end up hurting him. :( does anyone else ever feel like this?
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      01/29/14
      I'm sorry you feel that way. I think the fact that you're self aware enough to worry about hurting him means you won't do it. Is there anyone who can give you break? I know my mom struggled with being alone with us all the time. At one point she started taking a class once a week and my grandma would watch us. It was good for her to get some time for herself, of course she had underlying issues that she needed to deal with.

      The only other advice I have is to find an activity that you really enjoy doing with your son. So when he's acting out for your attention you can say, "okay, lets play ______", and really enjoy that time with him. Then it won't feel quite as exhausting and it could calm your feelings of being overwhelmed. Just enjoy the moment as much as you can. He'll probably behave better knowing that he got your full attention for a bit and he'll be ready to play on his own a little.

      Also, take full advantage of nap time and bed time ;)
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      01/29/14
      Be kind, loving and be very patient to your son. He's just too little yet. Ages 2- 4 are so tough to handle. In my case, my son was so naughty and playful when he was 2 until 5 yrs old. All he wanted was Mommy. He cried a lot when I was out of his sight. To go out was really hard for me. One time, I cuddled him and talked in a nice way with much love like you are talking to a big boy already. Toys and coloring books helped him to forget my attention. It took a longer time for me to overcome all this with my son but I patiently waited for the right time for him to understand and grew older.
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        01/29/14
        My mom and mother in law say the same thing that 2 to 4 is the hard part. I think it has a lot to do with being pregnant again and having a little boy entering his '"terrible twos" I don't go out right now since there is not very much to do in Michigan in the winter. ( unless you enjoy the snow, I don't. lol ) So I have a bit of cabin fever on top of learning the ropes of being the mother of a toddler. I'm really glad I joined this site :) I need some other moms to talk to.
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