Moms, what surprised you most about labor and delivery?

The intensity of the pain.
The lack of control I had in many of my hospital births - over many things.
The amount of love I felt for my babies.
The freedom I had with my home births. How relaxing my home births were, with the exception of my last one which was in between due to the midwife's assistant being present.

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8Theresa GouldChicago, Illinois
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01/29/14
8Theresa Gould
Yeah, I should have said how much pain I could tolerate as well.
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    01/29/14
    The intensity of the pain.
    How wrong every labor and delivery episode of TV shows are. Oh the lies...
    How easy it is to let the pain scare you, which makes everything worse.
    How much I really really really wanted to take a shower afterwards
    How not hungry I was
    How fast 21 hours went by
    How comfortable I was being naked around strangers - seriously, just get me in the tub so I can clean up, I don't care who sees me naked anymore.
    How good it felt once she was out and in my arms
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    02/01/14
    4Pam Otto
    After my nap that was the first thing I did.... I felt so gross!
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      Amber Bradley
      the things I loved during labor were, how patient people were to me. My doulas love and care, being able to sit in a pool all day without being questioned or rushed. many women don't enjoy their pregnancy or delivery but I loved it all!!
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        01/29/14
        8Theresa Gould
        That's how I felt in my first with all the pain meds and epidurals that never took. :(
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        02/01/14
        4Pam Otto
        I think my pushing process was less then 30 minutes. I only pushed 3 sets.
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          01/29/14
          *Obviously the intensity of the pain - I had hoped to hold out a while before an epidural but I caved like a house of cards after a bit of back labor.
          *The amount of fluid that actually comes out of you when your water breaks. It was scary. like bucketloads. Seriously.
          *How little you care about modesty - I had student nurses coming and going and I didn't care what they were seeing I just wanted that baby out of me lol.
          *How natural it felt to be a mother
          *How fast you forget about the pain you went through..
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            01/29/14
            Kayla DeLeon
            The pain, the ring of fire, how much water actually came out when my water broke and that pushing wasn't hard like I thought
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              01/29/14
              Kayla DeLeon
              oh and how fast you forget about the pain when the baby comes = You forget all about it until you give birth again haha
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                01/29/14
                Danielle Keltner
                My first two were induced a week early. I was surprised to find out that I was already having contractions and didn't feel them until after the doctor broke my water.
                *The support from all friends and family.
                *How different each labor and delivery is.
                *How much love overwhelms after delivery.
                *Seeing my husbands smile.
                I was so scared, even now with baby number three. I am always worried of the risks of "what if" It will all be worth it in the end.
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                  02/03/14
                  8Theresa Gould
                  I had wanted a home birth for a number of years but my husband was not open to the idea. Then I had a really bad experience in the hospital when we lost Matthew in December 2004 and another loss in April 2005. I had an I.V. yanked out of my hand causing me to lose my balance and almost fall in the bathroom - all the nurses fault. The staff, with the exception of one sweet nurse who couldn't put an I.V. in worth anything but I didn't hold that against her because her bedside manner was an A+, was cold, uncaring and the things said to me were inappropriate for a grieving mother. Btw, I don't think the hospital ever charged us for Matthew. I think because I filled out the hospital feedback form and told them exactly what happened and what I thought because I didn't want any other grieving mother to go through what I did. They followed up even after I got home and I made sure to say I didn't want the sweet nurse in trouble or to lose her job, just more practice with I.V.s :) Those two losses were the turning point we needed for my husband to agree to a home birth. Once we had one there was no turning back.
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                    01/29/14
                    I was 36 1/2 weeks along and started having pain. So I went in for a checkup they ran some tests. Came back that I had preeclampsia. So they broke my water put me on meds to start contractions. Also got 2 epidurals. Dilated only 4 cm in 24 hours. So 330 in the am on sept 24th 2008 doc walked in woke us up told us they had to do emergency c section. And I became a mommie at 4 40 am sept 24th 2008. To a beautiful son who weighed 6lbs 5 oz. He is growing so fast he is only 5 and he is wearing size 13 shoes and he is almost taller then me. His doc says he will be 6'3. I love you Ahmed with all my heart. :) I am a proud mommie
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                      01/30/14
                      7Kimberly Acord
                      I am so sorry for the loss of your baby. I am glad you were treated with such compassion and caring though.
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                        01/30/14
                        7Kimberly Acord
                        There are different things that amazed me with each labor. My first, I don't remember much of...I had some issues, and lost consciousness. I do remember being terrified, and my Aunt holding my hand. I had her, and they laid her on my chest and I just felt the most overwhelming rush of love. Then I threw up because of the pitocin. With my second, I am amazed I didn't kill my ex-husband, who asked them to increase the pitocin because this was taking too long. Notice he is an ex. My son they induc ed because of medical reasons, and it was Horrible. But what I remember almost as much as thinking I couldn't do it, couldn't get through it, was the feeling I got when he was here and I saw his little face. His eyes met mine...and I don't even have the words for what I felt. With my daughter Rosalea, lol...they told me I wasn't in labor. Then told me I could walk, or go home. I chose to walk. My best friend was there, and we would make jokes in between labor pains. Finally, she went and told the nurse, that if it wasn't labor, then she didn't want to be in the room when it was. They came and checked me, and go figure, I was in labor. Two hours later I had my little Rosie. With my last...I was scheduled to be induced that Monday. For a while she hadn't been moving like she should, but they kind of blew me off. I left the Doctor's office that day and drove to my fiance's house, which is an hour from the hospital, and 2 hours from home. I kept having contractions, but that was nothing new. I left his house about 11 because I was afraid of something happening and being that far from the hospital. I drove right by the hospital with contractions 5 minutes apart. Again, I had been having them for so long that I just kind of ignored them. I got home, my water broke, and I drove myself to the hospital with my pants lined with a baby diaper. Apparently my placenta was coming loose and if I hadn't gone into labor, my Jaiden would not have been around on Monday for them to induce. The most amazing thing about all of them is the fact that I know GOD was present and had his hand on each child as they were born.
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                          01/30/14
                          5Natasha Raisor
                          With my first labor what surprised me most was how much worse pitocin makes everything hurt and how much I love epidurals (if they actually work, luckily mine did that time).
                          With my second labor what surprised me most was how long it took! 16 hours! My first was 12!! I had heard over and over how they are suppose to go faster, lol.
                          With my third was how much the word "c-section" can scare the crap out of you!
                          With my fourth it was how fast babies can come (I was in labor for 1 hour and 38 minutes, start to finish)!
                          With my fifth was how much I could control my reactions to the pain. I didn't want to do my normal uncontrolled "go with what you feel" because that often involved yelling and since we decided to let out 6 year old be there, I did not want to scare her!
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                            02/01/14
                            4Pam Otto
                            What surprised me was basically the whole process. With my son all i wanted was for him to come so when they said they were going to induce me I was so excited. However, when I went in and they put in the inducing medicine it worked waaay to fast and my contraction were less then a minute a part and I couldn't figure out how to alert the nurses as to how many minutes apart they were.

                            I hated having my water break... I was sleeping in the hospital bed and I already had IVs in and couldn't get out of bed so they change my sheet once and then said it was going to keep coming so I had to try to sleep in a watery gooey mess.

                            After getting the pain medicine and the epidural labor was super easy for me and I felt no pain what-so-ever.

                            I was shocked at my random humor during my delivery and how quick the process happened.

                            Seeing my slimy baby on my chest I didn't know what to think about him.

                            Seeing my baby boy after he was cleaned up .... my heart has never felt bigger!!!!

                            The shakes my body went through when I was coming off of the epidural ... I felt like I couldn't control myself.

                            After the epidural wore off and I had a short nap I felt 100% back to normal and just wanted to get around and walk and carry my baby and do things.
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                              04/08/14
                              The fact that I didn't even know I was in labor until 6ish cm along.
                              That even at 8cm there was no pain, just the occasional rolling pressure.
                              How the births you always see on TV in no way seemed to relate to my own labor.
                              How much getting an IV put in HURT.
                              How the overall experience was really easy, though I'm sure it would have finally hurt when it came time to push, if not for the epidural lol
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                                04/08/14
                                4Katie
                                With my first two I was surprised that the pain wasn't as bad as I had thought it could be but with my third the pain was more than I could handle. I was surprised that there are so many variable and unknowns when it come to labor. I was surprised that pushing actually felt better, I was so scared when they said it was time to push and I wanted to wait longer but once I starting pushing it was such a relief. And above all I was surprised at how different every single labor was, they are never the same.
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                                  08/15/14
                                  5sarah
                                  The amount of pain I could tolerate was crazy I didn't have any pain meds. The hospital I had Bentley at was also great. They let me keep him in the room with me out whole stay.
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                                    10/08/14
                                    I was shocked when the doctor told me he was going to induce my labor the next day due to my blood pressure steadily rising up. I was so scared. I initially went in the hospital to see if everything was okay with the baby because I was getting ready to go to church that Sunday, went to the bathroom and saw a little pink in my underwear (sorry for the TMI), I didn't know they would keep me because my son was suppose to be born a day after christmas but he was born december 15th instead. His heart rate went down when they induced me, so much ran through my mind hoping and praying my baby was going to be alright but everything turned out fine, the whole process surprised me though.
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                                      11/19/14
                                      Melissa Middleton
                                      The fact that I was geared up for contractions and practiced for months and when the time came, zero contractions were felt. I was happy about that though. I was shocked on the amount of water I carried though. I continued to gush for thirty minutes. I had 25 pounds of water!
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                                      About Theresa Gould
                                      Current: Chicago, Illinois
                                      Birth: August 10
                                      On Moms.com since: Aug 5, 2013
                                      ***Baby Team Leader Moms.com*** I have been married for over 20 years. My husband and I have eight children ages 18 down to 4 years old. We use to live in Chicago but now live in Canada. I own www.FaithandFamilyReviews.com.