Is it normally for your 17 year old daughter to discuss sex with her boyfriend, who is also the same age.

I've always been against teens having sex and I have told my daughter that if I found out she was having sex, I would lose all respect for her. Recently I had a call from her boyfriend's mother and found out my daughter freaked out when her boyfriend tried to talk to her about having sex. Is this normal?

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    Both, I should have phrased my question better.
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      02/03/14
      What I'm trying to ask is, my daughter's boyfriend is 17, they are both 17 and have been discussing sex, from what I have heard, and like above I told her if I found out she was having sex I would disown her, and I got a phone call about my daughter freaking out because they have been discussing having a sexual relationship. Is that completely normal?

      You'll have to excuse me, I've had a long day.
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      See, I don't think it's right at all. I am a single mom that grew up with just my mom and brother. My mother would have busted my face if she found out I even remotely thought about having sex. I've never sat down with my daughter about sex, because I know I'll go the same route my mother did.
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        02/03/14
        I'm assuming she freaked out because she knows how much trouble she'd be in if you found out her boyfriend wanted to discuss sex. I imagine her going "OMG, I can't talk about sex with you because if I even think about sex my mom will disown me. Stop talking about it now." If she was very adamit about it and her boyfriend wouldn't let it go she could have gotten upste enough to alert her boyfriend's mother's attention - which is why she called you.

        Of course, I'm just assuming. If it is the case I think you should be proud of your daughter for standing up for herself and following what you taught her. I think you need to talk to your daughter to confirm what happened and let her know that you're proud of her for saying no. Saying to no to sex with all the pressure on teenager is hard. Some positive reinforcement from you could really help her stand her ground. Just make sure you stay calm and be prepared for awkwardness - especially if so far the only sex conversation you've had with her is "if you have sex I'll disown you".
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          02/03/14
          Okay.. I see what you meant now.. and honestly.. I assume, just assuming, she freaked either because... she perhaps wants to, they started talking about it.. you said you would disown her, regardless and she is confused.. or.. they just started talking about it, just talking.. but she still freaked out because you said you would disown her and she feels like she can't even talk to you about it.. I won't lie, my NOW husband's parents were way more open to chatting about things than my parents.. and I wish my parents would have been.. saying you will disown her, no matter what.. probably puts an awful circumstance in her mind.. or being pushed away by you and just terrified to even think certain thoughts.. if you really would disown her, then I suppose that's how it will be.. but the bigger question is.. would you rather her be open and be able to come to you about her feelings or hide them?
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          02/04/14
          If she opens up, then fine. It will not be a pleasant surprise what I will say to her. Kids these days are running around with their hormones raging out of them. Disowning her will be the greatest lesson she will learn, not to let her little selfish feelings towards her boyfriend get to her. Now, she will consider her thoughts carefully when making such a choice.
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