falling asleep on their own

With each of my children, I have always rocked them to sleep, sang to them, and cuddled with them in my bed until they fell asleep. I have always been a working mom, so I wanted to treasure, cuddle and make them feel loved since I worked so much. So, I have always done this until they were big enough. My princess Rosalea will be 4 in June, and I decided it was time to transition her to falling asleep in her bed, rather than being carried there after she was asleep. I reasoned, that would be an extra hour of time I had in the evenings with my husband. I could read a book, take a childless shower, have some me time. Me time is something sadly lacking here lately. So, last night I bathed my girl, read Corderoy Bear to her, sang her favorite song to her, and then put her in her own little princess toddler bed. She cried, she screamed, she got up. I took her back to her bed. She cried, she screamed, she got up. I took her back to her bed. I sat with her the first time, the next few times I was telling her from outside the door I was there, and when she got up I didn't cuddle, I just put her back in bed. So...I am sitting outside of the door, and I hear low sobs....not screaming, just low sobbing. My heart broke. I went in to her. She cries, "Mommy, don't you love me no more? I just want to snuggle with my mommy...." My heart broke even more. I thought for a second, picked up my still tiny, blonde princess and carried her to my room. I covered her up with "daddy's blanket", wrapped her in my arms, and kissed her little blonde head, as I told her how much I loved her and how glad I was that she was my baby. And I held her until she fell asleep. Then, as usual, I carried her to her bed. Me time can wait. My baby girl will only be this size for a little longer. Before to long, she will be big enough she doesn't want mommy cuddles. So, I am going to love this time while it lasts.

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7Kimberly AcordGlen Fork, West Virginia
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    02/04/14
    My kids are 7 and 9 and I don't HAVE to sit with them, but I still tuck them in, turn off the light and sit with them for about 5 minutes until they are almost asleep.. NOT because they need me too, but because I like to.. it's a sweet time of day and i love seeing them all snuggy after a long day.. and no matter how great or rotten they have been, their sweet faces at night, sleepy makes it all better...
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    7Kimberly Acord
    I think it is a valuable skill as well. I just never did it because of all the time I spent away from them at work. I think maybe I needed the cuddles more than they did. LOL My Jaiden is different. She will go to sleep in her bed alone. We rock her until she is drowsy, and then lay her down still awake. She is has a different temperment than Rosie, and is way more laid back. That's awesome that your baby sleeps on her own.
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      Margaret hernandez
      awww. hugs mom.
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        7Kimberly Acord
        It definitely is. And there is nothing in the world that feels better or smells better than a baby. <3
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        About Kimberly Acord
        Born: Glen Fork, West Virginia
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        Birth: May 24
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        I'm a married SAHM after working outside the home until a year ago. I have 5 beautiful children, and 2 awesome stepchildren. I love reading, cooking, laughing, and family things. God has given me a lot of blessings, and I'm so thankful for them.