tomorrow is my daughters first supervised visit with her bio father at our local family center. the visit is only an hour long but i wont be there with her. He hasnt seen our daughter since xmas (which didnt go well). How do i look past everything he has done to us? and is still doing?
You can't control him or his choices or what he does. And u can't keep his daughter away from him because if them. That's just how the courts work now; if a father wants to spend time with their child then the courts grant them that chance. Let your little one have whatever kind of relationship she can with him, she will grow up and ask questions and one day will be able to see what you've done for her. Trust me. Been there.
He took what u wanted away from you. That's awful but then look at it as a blessing as he doesn't seem the type to NOT do it again.
But don't make it about him. Make it about you and your daughter. Give her the strength and confidence to build a relationship with him.
Your time will come. Your person will come. But right now you gotta get yourself back so you can be someone good to be in a relationship with. Don't look for someone to fill that emptiness. Fill it on your own first.
I'm willing to bet that he's not all that happy. He doesn't have his daughter and he lives with another mans child and thAts not easy either.
Stay focused in you and your little one and everything will get better. I promise. I know this. I've been there and understand more than you know.