Motherhood over 35
Hi All. So, my husband and I are having our first child, I am 37, and of course, that is considered high risk by the OB GYN. Everytime I go to the doctor, they stress me out with all these tests that I "should" do. With all the indications so far, there appears to be no need for these tests. The first ultrasound that we had proved that the baby was healthy and every time I go in there, they indicate that all is great and the baby is growing in accordance within their standards.
Has anyone else dealt with this too? It's just frustrating because every time I leave the office, I am super stressed out and am crying. I think the only time I haven't been was the last appointment that I had, because the doctor that was seeing me was straight to the point and wasn't pressuring me, but her colleagues in the office ALWAYS do. I know they have to follow protocol and give you the options to do these tests, but some of them are so pushy and make me feel like a terrible person for not doing them. My mom had her last baby, my younger brother when she was 39, and they tried to do that to her too, but she stood her ground and he turned out just fine. I've also talked to other moms that are my age, and they have had similar experiences and their babies have been fine despite not having the testing.
Sorry this is so long, but it can be so frustrating sometimes.
My husband also comes with me to all our appointments, so he is there to support me and chime in when he needs to.